Let me first preface my statements about Interracial couples; by stating the obvious. People are going to love who they are going to love. I get that Jews marry Jews, Asians marry Asians and different nationalities operate in a systemic liaison of epic proportions.
I get that America is a still a racialized capitalistic construct that is going through some tough transitions as we speak. And I get that our upbringing, family values, and world views strongly influence who we choose to love and cohabitate with.
Nevertheless, I thought it was super important to discuss what black guys generally like about white women. In no way will my words degrade any black women or ethnicity for the matter. Personally, I was in an interaction relationship in my teens and years later given the use of TikTok have a seen a surge of interracial couples.
When it comes to Interracial dating the world has progressed since the 90’s; and yet a deep racial divide still exists in this country. I will speak based on my own observations and life experiences to suggest a few key concepts that are at play as it relates to why black men rock with white women so tough.
Whatever is Taboo is now considered the new norm. 67 years ago, in 1955 which seems like an eternity Emmitt till was abducted, tortured, and lynched in Mississippi after being accused of offending a white woman in her family’s grocery store. Although, he was never guilty of such a crime those sentiments still play out in Today’s American landscape.
It’s not so much that black men dislike black women; but it more about doing the oppositive of what White America deemed inappropriate. The same can be said for Mildred Loving, a woman of color, and her white husband Richard Loving, who in 1958 were sentenced to a year in prison for marrying each other.
It was this couple that got the Loving v. Virginia, 388 U.S. 1 (1967) landmark civil rights passed: which was a decision of the U.S. Supreme Court to rule that laws banning interracial marriage violate the Equal Protection and Due Process Clauses of the Fourteenth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution.
It was Rebellion that led to this landmark bill. It reminds me of Uranus. Uranus is the planet of rebellion and freedom, and it’s associated with the sign Aquarius. In astrology, Uranus is associated with change and liberation.
It’s a rebellious planet. It lives on the cusp of civilization and doesn’t abide by the laws of astrology in the same manner as other planets. Black men as Uranian forces makes the white power structure in America tremble. Never mind the fact black seed has the potential to eliminate an entire population.
When it comes to black men dating white women tons of bias is thrown out the window. When you consider a white upbring versus a black upbringing; different philosophical ideologies emerge (i.e., faith, money, education, love, career, business, legacy, philanthropy, religion etc.). And because black men feel white women can’t judge them based on their past experiences; creates a narrative for both parties to fairly assess the present relationship.
Many white women don’t get their representation of black men from the media. First-hand experience is the best teacher and judge of a person’s character. I am sure many white women have experienced terrible relationships with black men; and yet it’s the bias of the interracial couple that keeps the narrative moving forward.
Get this, Allison Skinner a postdoctoral researcher in the University of Washington’s Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences; says that
“Although most white Americans self-report little to no racial bias against black people, they tend to show robust implicit, or unconscious, biases against interracial couples”.
As I stated with rebellion, the more something is frowned upon the more people dive deeper into the fray. It’s what Franz Fanon, a French West Indian psychiatrist and political philosopher from the French colony of Martinique explains in his book “Black Skin White Masks”. The Bias for many black men is about understanding their own Black Psyche in a white world.
When it comes to black men who date and marry white women; it’s often about experimentation as with any other construct in life. Whenever we visit our favorite Ice Cream shop, we never go in just for the Vanilla Ice Cream. It’s about our experimentation with the (chocolate, blueberry, vanilla, pecan, cookies, and cream, rock road, pistachio, etc.).
Just because black men are born in America shouldn’t limit their palette from exploring women of various ethnos. In the context of this post, I am placing the setting only in an American construct. Obviously, black men date white women from various nationalities and backgrounds that cover some 200 countries.
I understand that the topic of Interracial relationships has been well researched. If you google the word “interracial Relationships” billions of hits pop-up. And yet, it’s the personal experiences of black men and white women that actually count. There is something very liberating to the senses when a black man is able to coalesce with a white woman, outside of normalized societal standards.
In the End
Maybe you are in an interracial relationship as we speak or have interracial children. Whatever the case may be dig deeper into the crevices of your relationship. You might be surprised to learn something new about yourself. I only dated a white girl because I was not allowed to, not because I thought white girls where God’s gift to planet earth.
In addition, white girls naturally gave me attention and were attracted to me. In a sense, I played ball where I was socially accepted in the beginning stages of my adolescent years. There are thousands of reasons why black men date white women which can’t be summed up in a few articles or research studies.
When a black man’s life takes a different shape than he envisioned; it's not up to society to question how that reality looks. In my opinion, interracial couples are here to expose unhealthy power dynamics in the world. A mere physical way of creating change and piercing the veil of American ignorance; while at the same time breaking outdated social boundaries. Hello Mr. Uranus.